Mr. X and I have kept up daily correspondence since date #1; we established date #2 approx. 1 day following the same. A few notes:

1. I don’t need constant attention, but consistent attention is necessary, especially in the early stages. I’ve chased a lot of crappy fellows, and although I felt right and smart to do so, spoiler alert, it was a waste of time. Mr. X is responsive, which is nice, and cares about what I say, which is super nice (and critical.)
2. Date #2 is at the old location of Dreamscapes in Salt Lake City, they’re moving to a bigger space and having a sort of last hurrah at the old spot. I’ve never been there and I’m excited for the photo opportunities. I also picked something I found truly cool, and Mr. X was excited to join me, and that feels like a win.
3. We’re also friends on Facebook now….which means that I am a fairly open book to him, if he chooses to go exploring. He says he doesn’t use Facebook much, which is fine, but he was happy to share his info with me…which also means his skeletons are either not bad or deeply hidden. Shrug.
4. Mr. X maaaaay have had a divorce splurge and bought 3 new guitars and a few synthesizers. He’s into music, NIN in particular, and has been enjoying the journey towards doing more music.
5. Mr. X knows all about the Boyfriend, he’s happy and welcoming to going slow, and respects where I am, too. Nice.

So today, following a much awaited tattoo consult, we’ll be meeting at my place at 1pm, head to Dreamscapes for a 2pm entry, and head back to my place for tacos and chill time after we’re done. I WAS going to collect ingredients to make the tacos myself, but there’s a really tasty taco truck just down 800 south, so I’m thinking we’ll pick up a few on the way to my apartment. His stomach is very delicate, he’s recuperating from a bad bike accident that jammed up his organs significantly, so hopefully street tacos are ok.

Oh, to be clear, Mr. X is non-binary, but is cool with he/his pronouns as well as X in general. He’s been identifying as such for about a year, so brand new, really. I’m very happy to spend time with someone actively discovering themselves.

It’s refreshing to have a daytime date that doesn’t destroy my calm evening. Who knows how late we’ll hang out, but I plan to keep boundaries and take my time as I need it. Laundry is a serious thing right now. He’s nice, but is he folded-and-put-away-wardrobe nice? Let’s be real people…no one is THAT nice.

I’m also listening to Nine Inch Nails radio on Spotify, because I know like 3 of their songs (Closer, Hurt, Head like a Hole, duh….) and I thought maybe he’d appreciate a little bit of time spent gaining knowledge on something he loves. Putting in my time, hoping he’s appreciative.

He’s very gentle and sweet and seems incredibly non-toxic. I’m excited to cute it up and be adorable for my date. Wish me so much luck!