Soooooo…I have herpes. It’s been about a year since diagnosis and I’ve been honest and safe with every partner since I found out. Still, it super sucks.

Herpes is seriously one of the last taboos of conversation in the dating world. I bring it up on the first date we touch each other, and I’ve gotten SUCH BAD RESPONSES. They get weird and suddenly sex is a ‘terrible idea’, they ‘don’t know if I can handle that’, and most often, ‘I have to think about it “, *ghost*

Is it a challenge? Yes. Is it important to be as safe as possible? For sure. But men going literally soft and immediately distant and dismissive of any of the good date that came before, well, damn.

Naturally my friends say that the ‘right guy’ will overcome this tricky little circumstance, but I’m not particularly hopeful after another date (Podcast McGee) shying away from contact following disclosure. I’m so angry right now and I’m trying not to begrudge the whole thing. It’s a burden, it’s shitty, it hurts.

So now you know. I hope you don’t think less of me, although it’s a popular opinion.

Fuck this.